It was a beautiful spring morning. I had set out for a quiet prayer walk, hoping to breathe deeply and hear from God in the stillness of the North Arkansas woods. As I walked, I asked God a question: “What do You want me to let go of? And what do You want me to receive?”
His response came gently, yet clearly:
“Let go of perfection. Receive My process of love.”
I smiled. “That’s beautiful, Lord, but I’m not a perfectionist.”
That evening, I found myself spiraling—a cycle I found myself in often. I had overreacted to my toddler’s unwillingness to cooperate, had locked heads in a power struggle, and ended up punishing her—something I did not want to do. Later I was able to uncover what she was trying to communicate: that she needed connection. I was now drowning in mom guilt. Harsh thoughts flooded my mind: You’re a failure. You’ll never be a good enough mom.
Then, in that moment of inner turmoil, the Holy Spirit whispered again:
“Let go of perfection.”
“…You mean in my parenting?” I asked.
And deep in my heart, I sensed a tender yes.
This moment became the first chapter in a surprising and healing journey. Slowly, Jesus began to uncover layer after layer of perfectionism I hadn’t even known I carried—ideas I had internalized about myself, about what it meant to be a good mom, and about my children—that I had to fix their every flaw. These beliefs were creating cycles of disconnection instead of bonds of love.
I share this because maybe you’ve been there too.
Maybe, like me, you’ve felt the sting of shame after a parenting mistake.
Maybe you’ve heard that same voice accusing you of not being good enough.
Maybe you’ve expected perfection from your children without meaning to—and found yourself exasperated and feeling awful, yet having no clue how to be the parent you want to be.
If so, I want you to know:
There is hope.
Extravagant love is ready to rewrite your story.
Perfection doesn’t have to hold the pen anymore.
You are not the sum of your mistakes—you are the soil where transformation can take root.
There is a new way of living and loving: one that embraces imperfection as a teacher, not a threat. One that sees mistakes—not as signs of failure—but as springboards to deeper connection, growth, and grace.
For me, that moment of weakness led to the deepest personal growth I’d ever experienced. One of the most transformative parts was receiving one-on-one parent coaching. Through it, I began to recognize and soften generational patterns, become aware of my personal triggers, and better understand my children’s emotional needs.
I’ve learned how to walk with my kids through their hardest moments while staying rooted in God’s extravagant love—for them and for me.
Now, I’m amazed by the deep, sweet connection I share with each of my children and by the security they carry in who they are: fully seen, fully heard, and fully loved.
Parenting has become one of my greatest passions. Now as a certified parent coach, it is my joy to support other families on their journey—to help them find peace and meaningful connection, not through perfection, but through love.
“Fear says: Fix it. Love says: Create the environment and maintain the relationship to allow it to fix itself” ~Bryan Post
An Invitation
If your heart resonates with this, I invite you to pause and ask God the same two questions that began my journey:
“What do You want me to let go of?”
“What do You want me to receive?”
Take a few quiet minutes to listen. Write down what surfaces. Be honest. Be gentle.
And if you recognize fears, shame, or impossible expectations buried in your thoughts—you’re not alone. This is sacred ground, and it’s where healing begins.
I’d love to invite you to walk this journey with me through my Listening Hearts Family Coaching. Together, we’ll gently uncover the mindsets and patterns that may be driving disconnection—and invite the grace and love of the Holy Spirit to bring freedom and new, deeper connection.
You don’t have to carry the weight of perfection alone. There is another way—one marked by love, truth, and restoration.
It would be my joy to walk alongside you and support you in this beautiful journey.
